Desires of the Heart


“Men are not taught to be great lovers, they are awakened, seduced, aroused beyond their smallness into their truth. When men band together they become warriors, priests, builders and hunters. When great men are found in the presence of innocent beauty, divine tenderness and sacred seduction; they become impassioned lovers, awakened poets, kingdom makers and slayers of dragons. Great men are awakening. Dance with passion, unveil your intimacy, summon the rising and receive all the abundance. All the magic you desire is before you, your infinite passion is at hand, you are desire fulfilled”.

This great quote was from a discussion I was involved in on Facebook, even more valuable to know that these words came from a man. You can imagine he was truly awaken by beauty and passion of a woman whose presence led him to explore his own sensuality and the very core of raw feelings, a state that’s often feared and being avoided by many men.
When a male client seeks my services in private practice, it’s mostly to work on communication issues and to establish a better understanding of their partner, be it a wife,  fiancée, or a girlfriend. And 90% of the time I have to go back to the basics and teach them a whole range of human emotions, both good and bad, so they can learn to identify what it is that they actually feel, the underlying beliefs that led them feel this way and a behavioral consequence (that often gets them into trouble and creates miscommunication and a possible later alienation). A hard work if you ask me! Especially for a modern man!
Yes there’s a definite biological, physiological and neurological difference in how both a male and a female brain functions (and I get to talk about it too), “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” is not just a clever quote, but the biggest disparity comes from the learned behavioral patterns that in our modern Western society are just almost impossible to break. From their babyhood, men are to taught to be warrior, problem solvers and leaders, boys are told to toughen up and not to cry, a man should always be ready “to slay a dragon”. Little do they realize that the dragon they are actually destroying is a sacred connection to their own emotional core, which is what makes us both human and divine, which combines the masculine and the feminine, as only when both parts are present, you can feel whole in your own self.
Genuine vulnerability only comes from true strength, tears come from the point of really knowing yourself and allowing emotions come through. I’ve had my share of moments (more than I’m willing to admit) to witness men cry in front of me, both clients and in personal relationships. Each moment is ever so powerful and oh so painful! Because you can see the walls collapsing, the guards carefully built over years evaporate at a first touch of a true emotion ripping through and wash away, like in a christening ritual, all the impurities and the defects that the society had imposed on a man, leaving just a pure soul, a perfect intertwine of both the masculine and the feminine – an emotional breakthrough that led to a true problem solving.
My wish is to live in a society where men cry and are taught to be sensual lovers, and where women are not afraid of their own power and can lead with both a strength and compassion. That may be hundreds of years ahead of us, but I know we are getting there. By inspiring just one woman to feel strong and believe in herself, and by allowing just one man to cry when he needs to…
What’s Cooking This Week
There’s something raw and pure yet very sensual about this week’s recipe. Just like you only need two, a man and a woman, to create true passion and a perfect blending, ice cream and flour are all the ingredients you probably already have at home. Whatever you add in or sprinkle on top will only enhance the experience and make breakfast in bed truly magical.
Peach Ice Cream Bread
1 cup of vanilla (or peach) ice cream, melted
1/2 cup of buckwheat flour (or use 3/4 cup regular flour instead of almond and buckwheat)
1/4 cup of almond flour
1 peach, diced
1/2 tspoon of baking powder
A pinch of salt
Combine the flours, baking powder and salt, melt the ice cream in a separate bowl before mixing the dry and wet ingredients.
Spray a bread pan with oil spray or butter, pour the batter in and top with cut peaches. You can use any other cut fruit or dry fruits and nuts if you wish.
Bake in a preheated oven at 350 degrees for about 30 minutes. Cool the loaf a bit before removing from the pan.
You can have a healthy yet hearty breakfast literary in minutes. Top it with almond butter or fruit preserves to indulge in a sweet moment.